Parenting is more like golf than tennis

Parenting is more like golf than tennis, more a competition with oneself to get increasingly better than a battle with the other parent. It’s even more transparent that when parents overtly state that they want to put their children first. Well, let me be more specific. When both of them identify that as their motivation, they are at least 75% likely to achieve it. But when only one parent is waving that flag, I find nine times out of ten that that parent is the one who is being selfish. Just claiming to be in favor of your children’s wellbeing does not make it a reality any more than joining a gym makes you physically fit.