Should we celebrate together the first year?

Maybe, depending on your situation—both what your kids want and what you’re able to achieve without a problem. If you can get along civilly with your ex, as most people can, it’s fine to celebrate holidays together. It doesn’t have to be every minute of the holidays, but enough to make your kids see that you are committed to being a family even though you aren’t spouses. The only downside is that if you are too friendly with your spouse, you run a small risk of having your kids wonder why you’re divorced or whether you’ll soon be getting back together. Usually, especially with school-age and teenage kids, this concern is usually very minor compared to all the benefits of celebrating together, but it’s something to think about. You need to remember that after a divorce, your kids will usually love both of you far more than you love each other, so your perception of tension or problems may be in your head but not an issue for your kids.