How do we divide the holidays fairly and with the most respect to our children?

You want to be very sure that your parenting schedule during the holidays makes both of you seem equal and important in the kids’ eyes. If you celebrate Christmas, you can divide Christmas Eve and Christmas Day into two equal periods and give one parent first choice in even-numbered years and the other parent first choice in odd-numbered years. Holidays can also be divided in such a way that you spend parts of each important day with each parent—who doesn’t like two Thanksgiving dinners in the same day?