Mediator Matthew's three recommediations about counseling

1. Your children should have at least a twice-yearly checkup by a therapist.

2. Counseling also has implications for parenting. I recommend a yearly “parenting checkup” with a licensed counselor or psychologist.

3. Both of you should agree in advance to afford the children’s counselor the discretion to keep their conversations confidential and not reveal the children’s comments to either parent or anyone else, other than for mandatory reporting requirements for abuse or imminent harm. If your spouse balks at this, a huge red flag should fly up.